But today is Josh's birthday and we are due for an update! He is so excited to be 5! He loves calendars and we keep a large one at home to help him know when things will happen. He is elated the first day of a new month and I get him out of bed by telling him we get to turn the calendar. November 17th has taken a long time to get here for Josh and today, we celebrate him!
Josh has continued to make tremendous progress. We tried a new speech-based preschool with a lot of visual cues during the summer, 2 days per week and he continued his ABA therapy 3 days per week. The speech preschool has been amazing for Josh! I never imagined that he would flourish with the use of pictures because he was verbal. However, I am wrong. His conversation and language skills have taken off. His first week there, he was able to tell me what he did at school and that was a first! So, what we planned to be a summer thing turned out to be great and we have continued that into the fall and started his individual speech therapy there as well. They have been amazing at helping Josh to regulate his emotions and use tools to handle things he does not like and changes in his routine. They have taught him so much on taking turns, playing games, singing songs and are laying an awesome groundwork for navigating social complexities.
Startng in September, we enrolled Josh in a regular preschool at a local church the other 3 days per week. With the help of his speech therapist, we had a local speech college student be his aide. He has done wonderfully and we have phased the aide out. I have volunteered at some of the school functions and leave in tears of joy. The other parents don't know Josh's past. I love that when I meet other parents they tell me that they hear about Josh all the time and love him. HE HAS FRIENDS!!!! My heart is so warmed that he has been welcomed with love by his teachers, made friends and the other parents know him in a positive way. God sent us amazing teachers that were just made to love and teach him. I feared so much with him re-entering the "typical" world, mostly the idea of him being rejected. My heart would have been broken. Thankfully, due to the grace of God, countless people He placed in our lives, and Joshua's hard work, I know we are going to be okay. There is still a road ahead of us, but it's a lot less scary than we were told and imagined three years ago.
We've made changes with Josh's primary medical doctor as well as with his diet. With Danny travelling so much, I had to just give up on our modified SCD diet. I couldn't peel, boil, puree and whatever other crazy stuff I did for 1 1/2 years any more! I first got Josh eating all his foods without pureeing them, then some fresh fruits, more fruits and veggies, then re-introduced grains. Being able to have some packaged foods is heavenly! We are still very vegetable and fruit intensive, but being able to have a bowl of puffed millet or rice for breakfast with berries and milk is just a joy. It's the small things... :)
On the medical side, the biggest gain we have had came after his doctor tested his cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone your body makes when you are under stress. It is your fight-or-flight hormone and gives moms the super power to lift a car off of their child, or one to fight off an attacker. I described Josh as being chemically off. He had odd sleep patterns, including passing out on the kitchen floor and we could not wake him. His meltdowns were so intense and very upsetting, but when he was done, it was like he had a chemical release and was reset again. Based on our descriptions, we tested Josh's cortisol levels by collecting his saliva 4 times in a day. It came back 10 times the normal level!!! We started some homeopathic remedies to help calm his adrenal system and support stress. Wow! This has been the biggest leap since chelation! Josh is a much calmer child. It has been months since we have had 30-minute meltdowns, headbanging, door slamming, wall kicking, etc. Those were the most upsetting to me. I couldn't calm my own child and couldn't keep him from hurting himself. He also rarely slept through the night. Since starting this remedy in September, Josh is sleeping much better. Usually when he wakes now, it is because he can't get his blanket back on. We have the Teach Me clock that turns green when it's okay to wake up and most nights, he is in his bed until it turns green, then he comes to my bed to cuddle with me. Sleep depravation has been the hardest thing for me to handle, so I am thankful Josh is sleeping better. Now, we are dealing with Kate liking to wake up at night, but I know that is just a matter of time and should be relatively short. :)
Here's a short clip of Josh and Kate having "smoovies" as Kate says it. They are precious!
Thank you all for your prayers and support!
Happy Birthday to Josh!